Happy Thanksgiving!

I'm sooo excited that Puppy, Bebe and I have 4 whole days with no work and all play!

I hope that all of you have a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend. Be SAFE!

I'm off to my kitchen to bake Apple - Berry Pies and Caramel - Chocolate Chip Treasure Cookies!!! I take requests from my nephews and nieces very seriously. After all, the 9 of them, including Puppy could do some serious harm if they decided to join forces and attack!

Thanksgiving will be at Pink Kiddie Nurse's house this year (my 3rd oldest sister is a nurse who works with cancer and she gets all the kids because she is so petite, they don't think she's really an adult and they LOVE her). After dinner, Bebe, Puppy and I will hop into a big rental van with her family (husband and 3 kids) and do a road trip to visit my High School Twin, Sister, and Super Star (my brother - everyone thought he was my twin in high school, my sister-in-law - just hate to clarify, my adorable niece - recently picked up a karaoke mic in the middle of a store and started performing for shoppers, and she's only 2!) Pink Kiddie Nurse and I decided since this is their first holiday away from the rest of us, we would try to make up for it!

Maybe we can get the rest of our family (Mom, Dad, 2 other sisters, in-laws, their kids) to hang out and clean up so we can eat and run???

Gotta go, lots to do...last minute packing and all! ROADTRIP!

Are you a BAD Driver?

Let's talk about driving. I have been keenly aware of bad drivers lately.

A couple of weeks back, Bebe and I were taking my parents and Puppy to a nice Sunday Brunch. Due to a bet I won with my Dad, we decided to use HIS $100.00 to treat him with! LOL, yes I know the man's 74 and no, I did not feel bad taking his money. When he decides to laugh in my face and bet me 10 to 1 and he had 2 to 1 odds? Yeah, I took his money!

Ummm, oh, bad drivers.

We were on a road with 4 lanes and a center turn lane. We were in the inside lane, next to the turn lane and the outside lane was backed up. You know how courteous drivers will leave business driveways open? Well, this gal in an SUV decides that she is going to inch out from a business on the side of the road. Her "inching" out was more like "leaping" out! There was absolutely no car in front of us, so we were doing 30 to 35 mph. We hit her t-bone style and the impact was head on, center of her front and back door!!!

I do have to say that my body is alll screwed up, but I do love my new massage therapist! So, there is some good. Puppy was the only one that didn't suffer any aches and pains and is not going to some type of therapy. He was just terribly frightened until I turned in my seat and smiled at him and asked, "Are you OK? Everyone is OK. Mommy's OK." Inside, I was really shaking.

Puppy, in his wholly Puppy-Style way, asked us, "May I go outside and look at the car's bump? I bet it's a big bump!" LMAO "Baby, I think it's more like a big dent."

This is why I have been aware and weary. So, yesterday on my drive home there was this ASS! I have about a 45 minute commute on I-5 on a good day. It was dark, wet, and this ASS was tailgating a motorcyclist!!! Being in the next lane, I could see that there wasn't even a car's length between them. Seriously, what the heck did this ASS think was going to happen if the car in front of this motorcycle braked?

If this is you as a driver, I am NOT sorry. You are an ASS!

So, what are some of the worst BAD Driver behaviors that get you all worked up?

Dentist Update

Hello!

Thank you to everyone for such awesome support. It really is nice to know that others are rooting for us.

Again, I am not looking for a paycheck, but I am making sure that Puppy is not going to have any future problems on his teeth that were worked on. I also do not plan on paying for his visit! I will not pay for what needs to be fixed by another dentist either, if anything.

So, I waltzed into, (OK, probably more like marched into) the dental office early this morning and had my mom, "Grandma" tag along, just in case they said or did anything shady, like NOT give me our file. Remember they originally told me it would take them 2 weeks? I demanded my "entire" file today. So when they handed it to me, it was missing a few things. The treatment and payment plan I had originally consented to for instance! LOL - it just gets more ridiculous. I have crossed over to lunatic mom with this cackling laugh because I am so pissed and it's better than crying?, not to mention that it just sounds more evil!

Office Person - "What can I do for you?"

Me - "Stephen originally told me that it would take two weeks to get my file. I can not wait that long. Puppy needs to see someone right now and it isn't going to be here at your office and the new dentist will not take him without it. So, I understand that you need to mitigate your damages and potential weaknesses, but do you want to add a 2 week infection to that?" (I sure hope that's what my customer's attorney husband actually said to me last night?)

Office Person - "Well, if you actually have a moment, we will get your file copied."

Me - "The ENTIRE file please."

I get the file and I sit down to go over it.

Me - "I don't believe this is the entire file. I don't see the treatment plan?"

Office Person - "Oh, the Dr. makes her own personal notes for the treatment plan. It is this one here and you wouldn't have seen that one to sign."

Me - "OK, what part of the ENTIRE file did you misinterpret? I do remember you telling Bebe that I had signed a consent for payment of the teeth to be treated?"

Office Person - "Oh, it's not in there? Let me see...(pretending to look for it, even though she was the one who copied the file?). So, you wanted that too?"

Me - (This is where that cackling, witch-like laugh comes in.) Nodding my head slowly, "Yes, the Entire file. The original one in March and the revised one in July."

Anyhow, so now it is just a matter of choosing between 3 attorneys. They all take 1/3 of whatever amount I am awarded and no money up front. They are all willing to take my claim. None of them have simply said, "Yes, we understand." when I say, "I am not looking to make any money off of this situation. I just want to be done with that office. I don't ever want to see or talk to them again. I don't want a call demanding payment. I don't want to have to contact them down the road asking for money to pay for whatever needs to be fixed, if any." All three have simply said, "Well, we need to consider what you should be compensated for your distress and your son's discomfort." or some other version of it.

I am calling around to get a consult for a second opinion from at least 2 other doctors to see what may have happened to cause them to perform the crown on an already stable tooth and a Pulpotomy on a simple tooth cavity. The two are adjacent so it sounds like maybe they may have drilled to deep/far on the cavity and it just kept getting worse? Kinda like trimming a bush or perhaps a bad hair cut? I have no ******* idea how!

So, that is the update. I get more mad as they dig themselves deeper with their "Shady" treatment of the situation. Oh, get this! I called the Regional Director, big fancy name, huh? I called her on Monday and left a message demanding the file and wanting to know if I could pick it up or have them forward it to a new dentist? NO answer. Same for yesterday. 1/2 hour after I left the office, a nice message from the Director's office wanting to set up a conference to discuss getting Puppy to a new "Provider" to get his dental work looked at. ARE YOU ******* NUTS? And they think I'm stupid? Someone needs to look in the mirror?

Oh, I was actually saying something, huh? So mad, I can't even think! I was saying I just get more and more mad as we go along...I now know why people get "Sue Happy"! I am trying to fight the urge.

Mia's Letters

Hi!

I have moved Mia's letters for Julia to a new Blog.

http://lovegonewrongintheredroom.blogspot.com/

I hope that maybe this will be easier for everyone. I know that some of you liked reading the letters and some of you proabably weren't that interested.

It takes me a while to type out the letters, so please comment and let me know if you want more!

"Who are the worst?? Guy cheaters or woman cheaters?"

Is He Playing Me? recently posted this question. "Who are the worst?? Guy cheaters or woman cheaters?" So far, this has proven to be one of those subjects that brings lots of different responses! Here is mine.

Gabrielle said...
Hmmm...I think there's ALWAYS something goin' on at home when there's a cheat. A lot of the times, it may be that two people commit to each other and they end up with totally different people! Unless they are both on the "I am what I am, take it or leave it." end of things, who someone falls for often times is not who they end up with. One kind of cheat, man or woman, just needs the attention to validate themselves. The Insecure Cheater. They constantly find themselves needing to feel that initial adoration they get with a new romance. It makes them feel better about themselves. Well, we aren't alll perfect, mostly not perfect. That means that until they can be totally honest and open with who they are and share themselves completely, accept themselves completely, the person who chooses to be with them will eventually think they aren't so adorable ALL day, ALL night, EVERY day, EVERY night! Gees, we could go on and on and on about this one! The Need A Challenge Cheater, The Payback Cheater...on and on! I don't think it matters if it is Man or Woman. It's what motivates them to do so!
November 12, 2008 10:00 PM

So, let's continue this one!

"Who are the worst?? Guy cheaters or woman cheaters?"

If you haven't checked out Is He Playing Me?, there's some great questions being posted for comment!

And he was worried about the Tooth Fairy?

The Tooth Fairy was the last of my son's worries concerning his dentist.

I AM SOOO PISSED!

I posted earlier about the dentist pulling out baby teeth that were loose, without notifying Grandma first. When I got home, I could see that the adult teeth were coming in, so no big deal. I was just peeved about it.

Thursday, Bebe took Puppy back to the dentist for another scheduled appointment. He was being sooo good, they decided to take advantage of the time and they worked on a cavity that was not scheduled. Somehow, this extra cavity that was being worked on turned into a Pulpotomy (baby root canal)! NOT only that, the cavity that was done earlier with a permanent filling was redone! They removed the filling and did a full silver crown!!! ALL THIS ON BABY TEETH!

WTF? When did it become OK to perform dental work on a 6 year old without parental consent? None of the work was even on his treatment plan, none of it was scheduled for that day!!!

I exploded when Bebe called me to tell me. I went off when I talked to the office and they tried to turn it around and blame Bebe!

Office person - "Well, are you aware that your husband was invited back and he chose to sit in the waiting area?"

Me - "Excuse me? Are you telling me that this is because of parental neglect? I believe that your office told us on our first visit that things are better for the child and Dr. if we stay in the waiting are and that you would come get us if you needed us for anything. Besides that fact, my son is very mature and has ALWAYS been fine without our supervision while with the Doctor. So, please tell me again, what does my other half being in the waiting room have to do with performing dental work without consent? We were not aware that your Doctor is so incompetent that we must hover."

Office person - "Well, your husband could have come back at any time."

Me - "Once again, was he out of the building at any time during this appointment? Was he down the street getting a coffee? No? Was he getting gas? No? Was he in the bathroom the whole time? No? Well, if so, did you try to contact me? I was the only one answering my cell phone and my shop phone. No? OK, just checking because it sounds to me like you are trying to blame this on parental neglect. Am I clear on that?"

Second phone call later.

Office person - "After talking with the Dr. and the Ass(istant), they clarified that once they started working on the cavity, the infection was so deep that they had to open up the tooth and then it was too late and it became an emergency situation in which they had to work on the tooth immediately and couldn't call your husband in to tell him what was happening."

Me - "Was my son dying? Was he bleeding to death, blood squirting profusely from the mouth? Was he having a seizure and thrashing on the ground? What other excuses do you have for me? I will tell you now, if you are to continue with giving me excuses, DO NOT call me again. There is no excuse for what your office has done today. I am sure that my son was numb and perfectly fine at the time your Dr. was performing the dental work. I am not that stupid."

Office person - "Well, I am sorry this has gotten this far out of hand. Is there anything we can do right now?"

Me - "No. There is nothing your office can do or say at this point."

As if all this isn't bad enough? They demanded $600 from Bebe that day. They told him he would have to pay a portion at least and then the rest by the end of the month, fees, collections, etc! We will see about that.

OK, apparently I am still just as mad as I was last week. I thought I could give it a couple of days and deal with it enough to write about it, but I can't. I am still pissed.

I am looking into my options right now. Any dental malpractice attorneys out there?

So far, I have talked with Washington State's Dental Quality Assurance Commission and we are filing a claim. I have also talked to one attorney.

The Weasel and His Ugly, Nasty Little Head

The Weasel strikes again. Bebe and I met up with Ms. Brown Suga at Hooters last week. I know, Hooters? Yup! I absolutely am addicted to their hot wings. I like them so hot, your sinuses get cleared just smellin' them! Anyhow, so the whole Weasel thing has not ended. Chickie got another text last week, "So, can I get back in?" What? What the hell is wrong with this man? Chickie asked him when was he ever in? He wants to know if he's going to get to hit it or what. Chickie reminded him that he was still married and living with his wife! He had the nerve to ask, "What does that have to do with you and me?" This is the part where I start to tune the rest out because my head is going to explode and it isn't the wings! I just kept shaking my head, "Oh, no, no, no." the whole time Ms. Brown Suga relayed the details to us.

Chickie really needs to just "NOT" respond to him at all. It's like Pavlov's dogs. A response is a response to him, bad or good, he is still gettin' the attention he obviously needs.

Poor Bebe had to put up with our Male Bashing after that. Good thing he laughs at everything I say!

Prey...A letter from Mia

Moved to http://lovegonewrongintheredroom.blogspot.com/

Hot N Cold

Laying in bed on a Saturday morning with my Bebe. He is watching music videos! OMG, can you say I haven't done that (Bebe is chuckling as he reads this next to me.) "I'm an adolescent at heart, Babe" Ummm, isn't that why I love you? (More chuckles.) I see dimples...it's alll good. Where was I? Stop distracting me will you? Otay, now we are both laughing..."Oh, I could distract you." I bet you could... "You are funny." I know.

Otay, no, seriously, where was I? Oh, I haven't watched Saturday music videos since high school? Maybe even junior high! Borderline and Relax come to mind, let's not spend too much time on that.

Anyhow, Katy Perry's Hot N Cold came on, caught my attention and we were watching and laughing. That video is hilarious. Absolutely, loved it!

I think the lyrics have us all nodding our heads. Uh-huh, been there, done that.

HOT N COLD

You change your mind
Like a girl changes clothes
Yeah you, PMS
Like a bitch
I would know

And you always think
Always speak
Cryptically

I should know
That you're no good for me

Cause you're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in and you're out
You're up and you're down
You're wrong when it's right
It's black and it's white
We fight, we break up
We kiss, we make up

You, You don't really want to stay, no
You, but you don't really want to go-o
You're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in and you're out
You're up and you're down

We used to be
Just like twins
So in sync
The same energy
Now is a dead battery
Used to laugh bout nothing
Now your plain boring
I should know that you're not gonna change

Cause you're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in and you're out
You're up and you're down
You're wrong when it's right
It's black and it's white
We fight, we break up
We kiss, we make up

You, You don't really want to stay, no
You, but you don't really want to go-o
You're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in and you're out
You're up and you're down

Someone call the doctor
Got a case of a love bi-polar
Stuck on a roller coaster
Can't get off this ride

You change your mind
Like a girl changes clothes

Cause you're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in and you're out
You're up and you're down
You're wrong when it's right
It's black and it's white
We fight, we break up
We kiss, we make up

You're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in and you're out
You're up and you're down
You're wrong when it's right
It's black and it's white
We fight, we break up
We kiss, we make up

You, you don't really want to stay, no
You, but you don't really want to go-o
You're hot then you're cold
You're yes then you're no
You're in and you're out
You're up and you're down

Changes?

Chasing Reality has a post titled "Changes". I really liked that LacksReality, as he refers to himself, made changes. I knew nothing about this man and I did a crazy DRB (Dating Really Blows, previous Blog) marathon to get caught up. I was fascinated by LR's Blog. It is "in your face" raw and brutally honest. It is a man speaking his mind! I found it refreshing, like so many others that I am reading. I am new to all of this and it is amazing to see how "free" we can all be when we are posting! We all know how many people we already have judging us in our "in person" relationships! Why blog and just get more of the same? Comments and your thoughts greatly appreciated, judgement and reprimand? Not so much.

Now, if I would have met LR at a party or at a bar, I will admit I probably would have labeled him and judged him. Bebe has taught me what a mistake that would have been. The old, "Never judge a book by it's cover." Chasing Reality evolved from post to post to post, keep in mind I had to do over a year of catching up!

So, has he really evolved or am I just getting to know him better?

I am amazed when I sit back and think about the changes in the different relationships in my life - family, friends, lovers. How can they all differ so much? Some are like huge boulders that weather over time, but not much change. Others are like trees, roots and grows on you. Then there are the ones that are like fragrant flowers, blooms and die.

I want to know, do people really change after they hit their mid 20's? We all evolve with our life's experiences, but do we change our core being beyond that? Do people really change or do we just get to know them better?

Welcome to my Red Room. Here, it is OK to express yourself freely. I will not judge for I am not perfect. I am not free of faults. I am not all-knowing. I am not done living! I sit here to share my experiences and learn from yours.

Thank you for lounging with me! Thank you for sharing. Thank you for sharing your connections with others and their stories. It takes time and it takes effort. I appreciate you for doing it.