The Other Woman

A friend of mine, let's name her Mama, for good reason. Mama has been dating Mr. Smooth for quite some time. I want to say that they have been together for almost a year. I have never met Mr. Smooth, but I was happy for Mama when she told me she had met a man and that they were "spending time", getting to know each other. Over time, she started saying that they were "best friends", that she could tell him anything and that they seem to be on the same page all the time, calling each other or texting each other at the same time, driving past each other on the same road...the list goes on. They became intimate, but never had "the talk". OK, not entirely true. There was one incident when there was a psycho Limo Driver that was semi-stalking her, another story for later. Mr. Smooth wanted her to make it clear that "her Man" will kick his ass.

Mama is 4 months pregnant. Right before Christmas, she asked Mr. Smooth to come over and help her wrap gifts. Mr. Smooth responded with a text stating that he was "at his girl's house" and that he had "just gotten out of the shower, LOL." Sorry, he can't come over and help.

WHAT?

Yes, he really did.

So, this is how Mr. Smooth chose to tell Mama that he has a girlfriend, if not a wife. This gives "the other woman" a whole new meaning. Isn't it bad enough to have your man cheat on you? Isn't it bad enough to have your man get another woman pregnant? What do you even do when you are "the other woman" and you didn't even know it!

To make matters worse, Mr. Smooth is not planning on telling his girl and he is trying to get Mama to believe that she would be better off dealing with him directly and not with Child Support Services, known as DSHS in WA state. No need to make it all official and legal, he'll give her more money if he doesn't have to deal with "them".

WHAT?

Yes, he really did.

I have so many things that I would like to say and do to Mr. Smooth.

"Who are the worst?? Guy cheaters or woman cheaters?"

Is He Playing Me? recently posted this question. "Who are the worst?? Guy cheaters or woman cheaters?" So far, this has proven to be one of those subjects that brings lots of different responses! Here is mine.

Gabrielle said...
Hmmm...I think there's ALWAYS something goin' on at home when there's a cheat. A lot of the times, it may be that two people commit to each other and they end up with totally different people! Unless they are both on the "I am what I am, take it or leave it." end of things, who someone falls for often times is not who they end up with. One kind of cheat, man or woman, just needs the attention to validate themselves. The Insecure Cheater. They constantly find themselves needing to feel that initial adoration they get with a new romance. It makes them feel better about themselves. Well, we aren't alll perfect, mostly not perfect. That means that until they can be totally honest and open with who they are and share themselves completely, accept themselves completely, the person who chooses to be with them will eventually think they aren't so adorable ALL day, ALL night, EVERY day, EVERY night! Gees, we could go on and on and on about this one! The Need A Challenge Cheater, The Payback Cheater...on and on! I don't think it matters if it is Man or Woman. It's what motivates them to do so!
November 12, 2008 10:00 PM

So, let's continue this one!

"Who are the worst?? Guy cheaters or woman cheaters?"

If you haven't checked out Is He Playing Me?, there's some great questions being posted for comment!

The Weasel and His Ugly, Nasty Little Head

The Weasel strikes again. Bebe and I met up with Ms. Brown Suga at Hooters last week. I know, Hooters? Yup! I absolutely am addicted to their hot wings. I like them so hot, your sinuses get cleared just smellin' them! Anyhow, so the whole Weasel thing has not ended. Chickie got another text last week, "So, can I get back in?" What? What the hell is wrong with this man? Chickie asked him when was he ever in? He wants to know if he's going to get to hit it or what. Chickie reminded him that he was still married and living with his wife! He had the nerve to ask, "What does that have to do with you and me?" This is the part where I start to tune the rest out because my head is going to explode and it isn't the wings! I just kept shaking my head, "Oh, no, no, no." the whole time Ms. Brown Suga relayed the details to us.

Chickie really needs to just "NOT" respond to him at all. It's like Pavlov's dogs. A response is a response to him, bad or good, he is still gettin' the attention he obviously needs.

Poor Bebe had to put up with our Male Bashing after that. Good thing he laughs at everything I say!