Dancing...A letter from Mia

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Is he cheating?

OK, here's a topic to start out with! My ex husband was cheating. Oh, he wasn't just cheating, he had been doing it for our entire marriage of 5 years...with the same woman!!! Did that just get your attention??? How did I find out? I found out AFTER I filed for divorce. I got a hold of all the bank records, etc. in the process of preparing for court. An account I didn't even know "we" were still using had $3,000, if not $5,000 in expenses per month, all for keeping a mistress. How did I not know? Oh, I didn't just not know, I was in total denial! My ex, oh let's just call him...hmmm, how about Dick? OK then, Dick actually worked from home. I was a pampered and spoiled "housewife" and "stay at home mom". I knew nothing about finances other then that I could spend it without asking. I had the luxury of not working, well, outside of the home anyways. I was able to raise my little boy from the day he was born. I took care of US. I took care of our HOME. Dick took care of the Finances. Does this sound familiar at all? I am telling you now ladies, IT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU! So, before we get much farther in this tale of mine, I ask, "Is he cheating?" If you have asked that question, you need to dish! Tell us what he or she has done and we can tell you what we think! For instance one of the signs I ignored in the beginning??? I had Dick's cell phone for a day. I sent a text and in checking the inbox for an incoming one, I saw a few old texts from myself that he had saved. Oh how sweet, how romantic, until I found one NOT from me!

Text: "So, when is your girlfriend back in town?"
Me: Huh?
Dick: "Oh, that's from so and so, and she's just joking around."

I was heated that his female friend had the nerve to nickname his wife his "girlfriend"! Denial or what? Apparently I believed his line and I got mad at her! I'm sure he got a big laugh out of that one! There's a start for you, messages on a cell phone!